What is an erotic massage?
Erotic massage is a sensual massage that is performed to sexually stimulate the recipient. It involves massage oil, which is applied to the body to relax the muscles and promote circulation. The massage "therapist" or your partner will also use their hands, fingers, and sometimes even their tongue to stimulate the body's erogenous zones.
This type of massage not only has many health benefits but is said to be extremely pleasurable. Sometimes even pleasurable for both parties, and can often lead to orgasm.
History of erotic massage...
Erotic massage has been around for centuries and its history is as rich and sensual as the massage itself. The earliest known erotic massage was practiced in India over 4,000 years ago, ever heard of Kamasutra?
The art of erotic massage was then brought to China by Buddhist monks who traveled there from India. These monks taught the Chinese people how to use touch to create an intimate connection with their partners.
Erotic massage spread throughout Asia and eventually made its way to Europe in the 18th century. It was here that it became a popular treatment for sexual dysfunction and began to be used as a way to increase sexual pleasure.
Today, erotic massage is enjoyed by people all over the world and is considered a delicious way to spice up any relationship or a night out.
The health benefits of erotic massage...
Erotic massage is not only a great way to relax and reduce stress, but it can also have some fantastic health benefits. Here are just a few of the ways that erotic massage can improve your health:
Prostate Cancer
A study found that ejaculation frequency may be related to the risk of prostate cancer. While studies are based on groups of individuals and may attribute to other factors. One thing is for sure, I'm sure having regular orgasms won't hurt.
More orgasms lower heart risk
The American Journal of Cardiology reported that men with a low frequency of sexual activity have an increased risk of cardiovascular disease.
Decrease aches, pains, and stress
Endorphins are released during orgasm from an erotic massage and are a natural way to decrease pain and stress, and increase your sense of well-being.
These endorphins are released during pleasurable moments like an erotic massage, exercise, or even eating chocolate can also reduce inflammation, improve your mood, boost self-esteem, and may even support a healthy immune system and improve memory and cognitive functions.
How to give an erotic massage...
The beautiful thing about this world is variety. We are all built differently, and we all enjoy different things. Different visual stimulation, different scents that excite, different erogenous zones to be explored, and more. So knowing your partner well will help you decide how to set the mood and what areas to focus on that will give them the best experience.
Setting the mood...
Does your partner like candles? If so set them up, what about scented candles? Spray on some nice-smelling body mist. Our scent is our most powerful memory trigger, so it would be nice to have a scent that brings back this memory you are about to create.
Light mood, some may enjoy the dim light or some may want to see everything that is going on. Even going 99% dark can allow you to focus on your sense of smell and touch more, it can elevate the experience.
Sound also sets the right mood, maybe your partner enjoys the sound of the ocean, soft relaxing music, or Nine Inch Nails Closer. Maybe set a playlist that increases in intensity throughout the experience.
It's good to be a tease sometimes...
First let's focus on the massage part, resist the urge to jump to the finish. You can even start by moving your hand above the skin just so they can feel the heat from your hand. Slowly work into actual touching.
If you are using massage oil, let it warm up on your hands first. With oil, we can actually work out some places muscles tend to knot up. The most common areas are around the shoulder blades and of course the neck. Apply pressure with your thumb around the blades until you feel a bump, and slowly go over the knot until you are on top of it. Once you find it stop and keep applying pressure where it resides.
Does your partner like candles? If so set them up, what about scented candles? Spray on some nice-smelling body mist. Our scent is our most powerful memory trigger, so it would be nice to have a scent that brings back this memory you are about to create.
Light mood, some may enjoy the dim light or some may want to see everything that is going on. Even going 99% dark can allow you to focus on your sense of smell and touch more, it can elevate the experience.
Sound also sets the right mood, maybe your partner enjoys the sound of the ocean, soft relaxing music, or Nine Inch Nails Closer. Maybe set a playlist that increases in intensity throughout the experience.
First let's focus on the massage part, resist the urge to jump to the finish. You can even start by moving your hand above the skin just so they can feel the heat from your hand. Slowly work into actual touching.
If you are using massage oil, let it warm up on your hands first. With oil, we can actually work out some places muscles tend to knot up. The most common areas are around the shoulder blades and of course the neck. Apply pressure with your thumb around the blades until you feel a bump, and slowly go over the knot until you are on top of it. Once you find it stop and keep applying pressure where it resides.
While we aren't focusing on fixing knots, it doesn't hurt to get a few out along the journey. But remember every once and a while do something that can be a tease. This could be a gentle blowing of air on the back or ear. Maybe sliding your hands down a little too far to an ass crack. Or sliding up and rubbing their earlobes. Maybe a little ice cub to cool down spots then warm it up with your hands and/or tongue.
Communication is key...
Some people can take note of their partner's reaction to see if they are "pressing the right buttons". Some require more verbal responses. It shows respect and interest in pleasing your partner to ask them to let you know when you are doing something right or something wrong.
After your session have a discussion and get suggestions of what they would like to experience next time. Even adding some role-play could for sure spice up the experience. Bring in some toys or restraints, candle wax play, nuru gel, blindfolds, and edible massage oils, there are so many things people have experimented with so it doesn't hurt to do a little research for suggestions.
Keep in mind that the reason most relationships fall apart is because of a lack of communication or understanding. Don't be afraid to share your fantasies with your partner, you might be surprised by how much they would be willing to experience it with you. Life is all about enjoying the short time we have on this planet, and enjoying it with someone special is what makes it bearable.
Conclusion: The importance of erotic massage...
Some people can take note of their partner's reaction to see if they are "pressing the right buttons". Some require more verbal responses. It shows respect and interest in pleasing your partner to ask them to let you know when you are doing something right or something wrong.
After your session have a discussion and get suggestions of what they would like to experience next time. Even adding some role-play could for sure spice up the experience. Bring in some toys or restraints, candle wax play, nuru gel, blindfolds, and edible massage oils, there are so many things people have experimented with so it doesn't hurt to do a little research for suggestions.
Keep in mind that the reason most relationships fall apart is because of a lack of communication or understanding. Don't be afraid to share your fantasies with your partner, you might be surprised by how much they would be willing to experience it with you. Life is all about enjoying the short time we have on this planet, and enjoying it with someone special is what makes it bearable.
From its long-rooted and evolving history to its health benefits and its overall pleasurable experience. We've learned that even if a fraction of the benefits are true that it can't hurt to add an erotic massage to your weekly routine.